It Starts With the Conversation in Your Mind: The Reason Inner Dialogue Shapes Every Deal
- Kara Moll
- Nov 6
- 3 min read
Remember that moment right before a big client meeting?
You’ve rehearsed the details. You know your talking points. But as you walk in (or log on), a tiny voice whispers:
“Don’t mess this up.”
“They’re not going to say yes.”
“You’re not ready for this.”
And just like that, your energy shifts.
That subtle inner dialogue can make or break the connection you’re about to build.
Because every deal you win or lose starts long before you sit across from a client. It starts with the conversation happening in your own mind.
The Silent Influencer Behind Every Conversation
We talk a lot about scripts, strategies, and magic words (and yes, they matter).But none of it lands if your inner voice is working against you.
Your internal conversation sets the tone for your external results.If you’re doubting yourself, your tone tightens.If you’re fixated on “closing the deal,” you stop listening.If you’re silently questioning your value, your client feels it even if you never say a word.
That’s because humans are wired to pick up micro-signals, the energy, pace, eye contact, and confidence cues.
Your words may sound right, but your energy tells the truth.
How to Reframe the Conversation in Your Mind
The good news? You can train your inner dialogue the same way you train your sales skills. Here are three simple shifts to start today:
From Pressure to Presence
Instead of “I need this deal,” try “Let’s see if this is the right fit.”This instantly removes desperation and brings calm curiosity into the room, creating space for real connection.
From Fear to Focus
Replace “What if I mess up?” with “What does my client need most right now?”Fear is self-facing. Focus is client-facing. The shift in perspective changes your physiology and your results.
From Perfection to Progress
Your goal isn’t to deliver a flawless pitch; it’s to move the conversation forward. Ask yourself: “What’s one next step we can agree on today?”That’s how confidence compounds one conversation at a time.
Why It Matters
Your clients don’t buy your product first. They buy your energy.
They buy how you make them feel: safe, understood, seen. And that begins with how you speak to yourself.
So before your next big meeting, pause for 30 seconds. Take a breath. And check your inner dialogue.
Because the conversation that determines every deal doesn’t start with them.
It starts with you.
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About Kara
Kara Moll empowers busy executives to become confident, effective communicators—unlocking their full potential in both their personal and professional lives. A real estate coach with Keller Williams MAPS Coaching, Kara is one of Phil M. Jones’ Certified Guides and an Exactly What to Say® Coach. She combines these powerful communication frameworks with expertise in Neuro-Linguistic Programming and Energy Leadership Coaching to help clients achieve transformative results.
With over 20 years of experience in real estate, coaching, and training, she brings a wealth of knowledge and insight to every interaction. To take your communication skills to the next level, inquire about working with Kara here: Contact Kara Moll
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