Calm Is the New Influence
- Kara Moll
- 6 hours ago
- 2 min read
January is loud.
Everyone is pushing goals, declarations, and declarations about goals. More hustle. More activity. More noise.
And yet, when I look at what’s actually working for the top performers right now, it’s the opposite.
Calm is the new influence, and the most influential people in the room aren’t louder. They’re calmer.
They don’t rush to fill silence.
They don’t explain their way into credibility.
They don’t mistake urgency for leadership.
Calm has become a competitive advantage.
Here’s why.
Pressure speeds people up.
Speed kills clarity.
And clarity is what people are actually looking for when they’re making decisions.
When conversations feel pressured, people don’t lean in. They protect themselves.
That’s when you see over-explaining, justification, and convincing creep in. Not because someone lacks skill, but because they feel the moment slipping away.
The strongest leaders I work with do something different.
They slow the conversation down.
They pause.
They ask one more question.
They let silence do some of the work.
And here’s the part most people miss:
That restraint doesn’t weaken their position. It strengthens it.
Calm communicates confidence without saying a word. It tells the other person, “There’s no rush. We’re good here.”
If you want January to actually set the tone for your year, stop trying to sound impressive.
Start sounding grounded.
Because calm isn’t passive. It’s controlled influence.
About Kara
Kara Moll empowers busy executives to become confident, effective communicators—unlocking their full potential in both their personal and professional lives. An Executive Coach with Keller Williams MAPS Coaching, Kara is one of Phil M. Jones’ Certified Guides and an Exactly What to Say® Coach. She combines these powerful communication frameworks with expertise in Neuro-Linguistic Programming and Energy Leadership Coaching to help clients achieve transformative results.
With over 20 years of experience in real estate, coaching, and training, she brings a wealth of knowledge and insight to every interaction. To take your communication skills to the next level, inquire about working with Kara here: Contact Kara Moll
